The Path to Leadership is complicated when you like I need to begin with struggling to get your GED, I had no choice but dropping out of the High School, I was 16 years old back then, it took me more than 3 years to earn a GED certificate.
I’m very proud of being a GED recipient but it wasn’t easy. I failed first, going back to school was a disaster and thankful for being able to follow GED programs offered over the Internet. If I would live 20 years ago, would not b able to pursue my dream.
It took me 5 months to get ready for the GED exam, it was a character changing experience but I did it. Besides the GED diploma, I also got confidence and self-esteem as the byproducts.
My secret source of motivation was the website that pointed out often enough that many famous and successful now people are also GED graduates. Then I decided I want to be a leader, I want to be a nurse and a leader, now my task was to find my own path to leadership.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot. Perhaps it stems from me trying to figure out my next move. I want to grow as a nurse leader, but the path isn’t clear. Good examples of a nursing leadership track I have yet to discover. Maybe I should take a closer look at what Steve Jobs has said about it. I have several options. Here are a few:
It’s the number one bitch-session complaint online: “I do everything I’m supposed to do. I write blog posts, I’m on Twitter, I’m on Facebook, I’m doing everything I’m told, but I’m still not making any money online. What am I doing wrong?”
Sound familiar? You’re busting your ass for a whole lot of nothing while other people online seem to breeze by with no effort at all and lots of cash in their pockets. It’s a pain in the ass, sure, but let me ask you something:
ARE YOU REALLY WORTH PAYING FOR?
I’m not asking if you’re an expert in your field. I’m asking if what you DO for your customers, your readers and followers right now is worth paying for. If your answer is “maybe,” this is an uncomfortable question.
HOW TO HANDLE THE HATERS
When it comes to handling haters and critics, my old theater professor gave me the best advice:
“Sometimes you just have to smile and out-class the bastard.”
Best. Advice. Ever. When it comes to flamers and haters online (or, hell, real life for that matter) the best strategy is no strategy at all. Chances are good that if their comments sound stupid to you, they sound stupid to the other readers and listeners too.
If you are anything like me you don’t always manage your time to the best of your abilities. Countless times you lose your focus without even realizing it. You would be far more productive spending less time working, but getting more done within that time frame.
I could spend hours taking all sorts of career, personality quizzes like this one. I found this great website and it is my favorite “time killing” activity right now. Who doesn’t want to know the best career, right? So I wanted to be more productive and have time for things I really like.
By increasing your productivity you are freeing yourself up to do more of the activities you enjoy.
No one wants to work 24/7 only to get half as much done as someone who works less than half the time. I have put together the ultimate guide to skyrocket productivity. Follow this guide and you will have more time to do the things you love.
A couple of days ago, I was asked by a broker and realtor to come and work with them if I wanted. I hesitated, hemmed and hawed, but it just stayed in the back of my mind. I’m not unacquainted with the industry, since both my parents and my grandparents have been agents at one time, but I didn’t like what was going on in the bubble and stayed away.
This is the second step in our series on creating your life. Last time we visualized the life we want. But next, how do you get there? How do you make that life happen? It may seem trivial but the next step is setting goals. Think about what you visualized. Fill in the following blanks:
In my ideal life I live in ______________. (Answers may include a house, an urban setting, on a farm, all dependent on what you visualized.)
In my ideal life I work _______________. (Answers may include the type of job you were doing, the hours you were putting in, or even the location, such as I work in an office, I work from home, I work no more than 25 hours a week.)
In my ideal life I have specific people around me. They are _________________. (A family, children, friends, my dog, whatever you see.)
In my ideal life I choose to spend my time _________________. (If you had unlimited time and resources, what are you doing in your perfect life?)
If you answered these questions, you just set goals. Goal-setting is not complicated, it’s just the process of seeing what you want, and committing to make it a reality.
When I was in the third grade one of the class parents was going to school to be some sort of child therapist and spoke to us about setting goals and the importance of visualization. She guided us through some exercises to help us determine the life we wanted to live so we could set goals that would have the desired end result.
Even though it was long ago, I can still see the pictures in my mind like it was yesterday. I visualized myself pulling up a long road on to a larger property with an averaged size home. My child was playing with the animals outside and I walked in the door to see my husband cooking.
I set down my bag, gave him a hug, jumped right in and helped him. I’m amazed that at such a young age I knew the importance of a deep farmhouse sink. We talked about our days, set the food out on a large picnic table outside and watched as our friends and family came driving up for a great summer dinner.
Some things have changed in my mind. My husband looks like my husband and not Christopher Reeves, and I’d rather be driving a Volkswagen Golf TDI than my childhood dream car of a Porsche 911. And sadly, when I think about the friends and family coming over to eat, my Dad who passed away is no longer among them. But the reality has not changed that much. Through visualization I learned:
If you find yourself making up excuses for why “you need” your current job, or holding off on firing your boss, then you’re afraid of not being able to find anything else, finding something worse, or maybe when you do decide to embark on what makes you happy there is the possibility of failure so you’re taking the safer route.
But the truth of the matter is, can you really live with the fact that you might be passing up something that could lead you to happiness if you decide to stick to your job… due to fear?
#2/ You feel bored with your life
I’m sure repeating the same routine day in, day out, for years on end would take the mickey out of anyone. The predictability of it all leaves you feeling tired, unhappy, unfulfilled, and you’re probably asking yourself, “What is the point of all of this?” Take that as a cue to start rethinking about what you want out of life. Sometimes a simple process of getting a certificate will help you to move forward.
Sometimes, firing your boss and leaving your day job can be frightening because there are so many worries that go with it (damn bills…), but have you ever thought about the positives that come with that?