A couple of days ago, I was asked by a broker and realtor to come and work with them if I wanted. I hesitated, hemmed and hawed, but it just stayed in the back of my mind. I’m not unacquainted with the industry, since both my parents and my grandparents have been agents at one time, but I didn’t like what was going on in the bubble and stayed away.
This is the second step in our series on creating your life. Last time we visualized the life we want. But next, how do you get there? How do you make that life happen? It may seem trivial but the next step is setting goals. Think about what you visualized. Fill in the following blanks:
- In my ideal life I live in ______________. (Answers may include a house, an urban setting, on a farm, all dependent on what you visualized.)
- In my ideal life I work _______________. (Answers may include the type of job you were doing, the hours you were putting in, or even the location, such as I work in an office, I work from home, I work no more than 25 hours a week.)
- In my ideal life I have specific people around me. They are _________________. (A family, children, friends, my dog, whatever you see.)
- In my ideal life I choose to spend my time _________________. (If you had unlimited time and resources, what are you doing in your perfect life?)
If you answered these questions, you just set goals. Goal-setting is not complicated, it’s just the process of seeing what you want, and committing to make it a reality.
When I was in the third grade one of the class parents was going to school to be some sort of child therapist and spoke to us about setting goals and the importance of visualization. She guided us through some exercises to help us determine the life we wanted to live so we could set goals that would have the desired end result.
Even though it was long ago, I can still see the pictures in my mind like it was yesterday. I visualized myself pulling up a long road on to a larger property with an averaged size home. My child was playing with the animals outside and I walked in the door to see my husband cooking.
I set down my bag, gave him a hug, jumped right in and helped him. I’m amazed that at such a young age I knew the importance of a deep farmhouse sink. We talked about our days, set the food out on a large picnic table outside and watched as our friends and family came driving up for a great summer dinner.
Some things have changed in my mind. My husband looks like my husband and not Christopher Reeves, and I’d rather be driving a Volkswagen Golf TDI than my childhood dream car of a Porsche 911. And sadly, when I think about the friends and family coming over to eat, my Dad who passed away is no longer among them. But the reality has not changed that much. Through visualization I learned:
If you find yourself making up excuses for why “you need” your current job, or holding off on firing your boss, then you’re afraid of not being able to find anything else, finding something worse, or maybe when you do decide to embark on what makes you happy there is the possibility of failure so you’re taking the safer route.
But the truth of the matter is, can you really live with the fact that you might be passing up something that could lead you to happiness if you decide to stick to your job… due to fear?
#2/ You feel bored with your life
I’m sure repeating the same routine day in, day out, for years on end would take the mickey out of anyone. The predictability of it all leaves you feeling tired, unhappy, unfulfilled, and you’re probably asking yourself, “What is the point of all of this?” Take that as a cue to start rethinking about what you want out of life. Sometimes a simple process of getting a certificate will help you to move forward.
Sometimes, firing your boss and leaving your day job can be frightening because there are so many worries that go with it (damn bills…), but have you ever thought about the positives that come with that?
Long time no blog =D
I know, I know.. I have been super lazy and not blogging lately at all. Before you judge me and decide to hate me forever, please let me explain. I’m a student goes to uni and runs 2 businesses. And being a student means you have assignments to conquer.
Being a last year student means you have to conquer even harder tasks…( Actually, I lied, all I seem to do is watch How I met you mother… but that’s another story =D) Not to mention running my time-consuming biz.
Hence, no time for blogging…
But now I’m on holiday now ( for 2 weeks. Hooray for holidays!) and I have heaps of time in my hands. =D
The other day, I came across Michael Dunlop’s famous young rich list and it made me wonder how old some of the world most famous brand’s founders were when they first started their multimillion dollar companies.
Naturally, I did a little research. And the results shocked me. I limited my search for people under 25 only, not expecting many to make the list.
Boy! Was I wrong! The figures are dated, of course (2011), and I think it shows how fast the world has changed. Take a look at some 2011 data:
Michael Kittredge started Yankee Candle Company in South Hadley, Massachusetts when he was 16. This $1.6 billion dollar company was started by Michael’s gift ideas to his mother. He melted crayons to create scented candle. Soon his product’s popularity has increased dramatically. The company now has more than 550 stores all over the world selling almost anything from scented candles to hand sanitizers.
Life is complicated. Why? Because I can go on for days about things that we THINK we hate, but can’t live without.
Fast-food is one of them.
My beloved boyfriend and 2 awesome cousins are big fans of Mr. Ronald McDonald. They love him even more now because of the Maccas I Spy game (For aliens who live outside of planet Earth, and people who don’t live in Australia=), the rules are pretty simple, you buy, you peel and collect letters that supposedly make up the words of your prizes. Sometimes, you win instant meals too). Sound simple? Apparently not!
According to the 3 Mc Donald experts, there are only 2 letters R (which makes up the prize for C-A-R), 10 letters L (for H-O-L in ‘holiday’ and many more similar stories) in who-know-how-many Mc Donald packages across Australia.
You get my point; chances of winning BIG are extremely SMALL.
I thought I was fit .
I was wrong.
Just 2 hour bike ride along Manly-one of the most beautiful beaches of Sydney, I was doomed and gasping for air.
Minus the out of breath bit, last Saturday was such a productive and fun day as I got to hang out with awesome friends, enjoyed the breath-taking view (literally) of Manly beach and figured out some business philosophies (please excuse my attempt to sound elegant and intelligent) which are applicable for my current businesses as well as the many future businesses ,that currently are ideas in our heads and plans on paper.
Remember sometimes we forget that some of the most simple things( bike riding for example) can be the ultimate source for success ( think: Newton and an apple that hit him on the head).
As I have learnt that a picture worth a thousand words, for your own entertainment, this post will contain heaps of pictures to prove my point that Australia really is a beautiful country and being Asian means you take pictures anywhere, anytimes=)
This is a list of what I learnt just by a day bike riding and I hope it will inform as well as entertain you about some awesome lessons in businesses and in life.
The bike riding journey has really reconfirmed some of the cliché’ I believe in as an entrepreneur. They are cliché’ for a reason, because they are so true, no other belief or definition can replace them.
Let’s see what those are..
Did you hear about the power of pre-visualization? It’s huge, whatever you want to achieve you can more easily if you use this simple technique. Want to be skinny? Close your eyes for a minute and picture yourself. How do you look? Are you fat or skinny in your mind’s eye?
Sports psychologists talk a lot about pre-visualization. Before you throw your pitch, before you shoot your free-throw, before you hit your tee shot, you visualize it first. The same idea is used in career tests used by universities, they offer potential students career tests that allow people to visualize themselves as a doctor, engineer etc.
This act of pre-visualization causes your body to believe that it’s already successfully completed the task. Through consistent practice and with a repeatable routine, athletes commonly improve their performance percentages.
As someone struggling with their lack of confidence, the ability to see yourself as an already accomplished individual will help in your overall strategy.
Don’t picture yourself as you are. Picture yourself at your ideal job and begin to get comfortable with that and use it as motivation.
It’s now nearly 1 am and I have uni plus work the day after ( or should I say today?=D) but here I am writing a new blob post. Well, this post will be short because:
a, I need sleep zzz
b, I just want to tell you a quick story with an end that you can’t even guess (or can you?=D)
OK, let my story begin!
As you all know I went to Vietnam for holiday 2 months ago ( For those who are new on the blog, YEP! I went holiday in Vietnam, BEST. TIME. EVER). So what you do when you go holiday?…
SHOP and EAT of course!
And that’s exactly what I did. ( You can check out the yummy dishes and drool over here=D)
I have been writing a lot about start-ups, money-making, businesses…and it seems the guys are more interested in this kind of stuff more than us girls… Now it is the time I write up something more relevant to us: Pretty Dresses to wear at your wedding.
Guys, please excuse me while I indulge and share a sense of womanly moment with all my female readers.
AIN’T we lucky we are women?
WE get to appreciate the fine art of fashion embraced upon our elegant bodies. Every bride deserves to look the most stunning, to feel amazing, to be loved, not only by her groom but also be loved, be amazed by how she feels about herself.
I love the extravagant frill that makes every bride feel and look like a princess.
And that’s exactly how a wedding dress has to make you feel – like a princess. No matter how old you are, no matter where you are at, no matter if you can’t afford a Vera Wang =D… every detail on your dress should be perfect, should be about YOU, because it’s YOUR BIG day, not anyone else’s…
And this dress, so simple yet elegant.